29 July 2006

Real Sex

[it's a book by Lauren F. Winner]

I was once asked what I would say to a friend whom I knew was having premarital sex; I told my interlocutor that the first step in speaking to my friends about sex was making sure that we enjoyed relationships built on top of hundreds of ordinary shared experiences--plays attended together and pumpkins carved together and accompanying one another on doctor's appointments and changing the oil together. To say this is not to side-step the question. Community doesn't come about simply by having hard, intimate conversations. Having hard, intimate conversations is part of what is possible when people are already opening up their day-to-day lives to one another."


In a nutshell, what I miss most about the Tanzania program and working with Wilderness Adventures.

27 July 2006

yo donald miller

already there buddy--coming up on renewal for my first year's subscription!

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ummm....it's been a crazy busy couple of weeks. any and all progress in fields other than my fourtteen Bridge students has come to a complete stop. i am exhausted.

but I got to go to the Counting Crows/Goo Goo Dolls concert last weekend, and play in Wiscoy again, and play Settlers, and Dan Sahli's been stopping by this weekend to hang out and shoot the...

oh, right, still not employing the extended vocabulary with students around. but I'm going to Buffalo this weekend for Shakespeare in the Park, and that means off-campus rules apply. hmmmm...can you say fruit of the vine?

hey, check out how ridiculously high-powered Paul's camera is. you can see individual drops of Wiscoy Creek on my face.

18 July 2006

excitement

So I almost died this weekend. Wiscoy Creek was running higher than I had ever played in it before (I've seen it higher, and quite rightly decided not to tempt God to bring me home early), so naturally we frolicked in the rushing dancing water and climbed the waterfalls. Of course I tried to fight the current and touch the middle of the middle falls, and of course it swept me away in my hubris and I had to act quickly to avoid the lower falls. It looked a lot nearer a call than it really was, which of course had the desired affect of impressing the women. Or convincing them that evolutionarily speaking, my genes are right on par with those of the dodo.

Needless to say it was an awesome day. I don't know why God made summer in New York so bloody hot and humid, but so long as there are waterfalls and streams and rivers aplenty, I'll not complain too loudly. I think the highlight of the last few weeks has been meandering along Houghton Creek in the heat of the afternoon.

And that's not the only reason my grin-to-scowl ratio is greatly elevated from last year's norm--I am indescribably happy to be a part of a community again. My employer informed me the other day that my job description could be summed up in the simple phrase: "Be Dan Holcomb." I love the feeling that I'm actually integral and important and doing something few other people could do. Yes it makes me happy.

What also makes me happy is, though there are fewer friends in my life these days, I have never tasted of such quality fellowship--I am blessed to know some amazing people, and occasionally they stop by Houghton for an hour or two of fine coffe and simply phenomenal cinnamon rolls at the Daily Grind. Sometimes in a conversation you can find a part of yourself after long estrangement.

And, finally, a lighter note of circumstance: I think maybe I have located the Bush Whacker's* soul mate. Unfortunately, I was on the way to pick up my students from internship so I couldn't wait around for this particular Jeep's owner to show up...but I got a picture:




*Bush Whacker: Jeep belonging to the twilighttreader, similarly decorated with eccentric leftist bumperstickers and often the target of animosity from police officers and angry conservatives.

--Later Edit--

So here's how I abuse office hours:

I was pondering Nietzsche:

"Whoever fights monsters
should see to it that
in the process he does not
become a monster.
And when you look long into
the abyss, the abyss also looks
into you"


And I decided to see what the context was, hoping for a larger paragraph on the nature of knowledge, self-exploration, the depravity of humanity in general, etc. Unfortunately, the larger context is a collection of "Aphorisms and Interludes," so there is no exploration of the idea--unless you count, of course, the body of his work and eventual suicide. But I digress. In the name of a chuckle, I give you the context of his quite remarkable statement: women.

"131

The sexes deceive themselves about one another: the reason being that fundamentally they love and honour only themselves (or their own ideal, to express it more pleasantly‑). Thus man wants woman to be peaceful ‑ but woman is essentially unpeaceful, like the cat, however well she may have trained herself to present an appearance of peace."


and a little later...

"144

When a woman has scholarly inclinations there is usually something wrong with her sexuality. Unfruitfulness itself disposes one to a certain masculinity of taste; for man is, if I may be allowed to say so, `the unfruitful animal'.

145

Comparing man and woman in general one may say: woman would not have the genius for finery if she did not have the instinct for the secondary role.

146

He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And when you gaze long into an abyss the abyss also gazes into you."


And a little later, a meditation on love:

"153

That which is done out of love always takes place beyond good and evil."


hmmm...peculiar. people call me a chauvanist.

16 July 2006

lonely roads

so on a star lit night I complained to that wise frood* of the woodlands Alex the Scott:

man, I'm so fricken' bizarre that not only do I not fit into normal society, but even the strange ones don't really know what to do with me. I feel pretty lonely freakish right now; pretty cut off.

to which he replied...

dude, you're in the company of the best of men. what great rocker or poet or thinker hasn't quested his way from the ordinary to the strange and found himself deep in the proverbial woods?

and he sang,

"I walk a lonely road/the only one that I have ever known/don't know where it goes/but it's only me/and I walk alone..."

so I'm listening to Green Day's Boulevard of Broken Dreams again, still as bold and fresh a CD as when I heard it in a very dry place last summer. "ring out the bells again/like we did when spring began...here comes the rain again/falling from the stars/drenched in pain again/becoming who we are"

JRR Tolkein's words are on the back of my new STEP t-shirt:

"Not all who wander are lost."



----





*from the Hitch Hiker's Guide to the Galaxy:

The Hitch Hiker's Guide to the Galaxy has a few things to say on the subject of towels.

A towel, it says, is about the most massively useful thing an interstellar hitch hiker can have. Partly it has great practical value — you can wrap it around you for warmth as you bound across the cold moons of Jaglan Beta; you can lie on it on the brilliant marble-sanded beaches of Santraginus V, inhaling the heady sea vapours; you can sleep under it beneath the stars which shine so redly on the desert world of Kakrafoon; use it to sail a mini raft down the slow heavy river Moth; wet it for use in hand-to-hand-combat; wrap it round your head to ward off noxious fumes or to avoid the gaze of the Ravenous Bugblatter Beast of Traal (a mindboggingly stupid animal, it assumes that if you can't see it, it can't see you — daft as a bush, but very ravenous); you can wave your towel in emergencies as a distress signal, and of course dry yourself off with it if it still seems to be clean enough.

More importantly, a towel has immense psychological value. For some reason, if a strag (strag: non-hitch hiker) discovers that a hitch hiker has his towel with him, he will automatically assume that he is also in possession of a toothbrush, face flannel, soap, tin of biscuits, flask, compass, map, ball of string, gnat spray, wet weather gear, space suit etc., etc. Furthermore, the strag will then happily lend the hitch hiker any of these or a dozen other items that the hitch hiker might accidentally have "lost". What the strag will think is that any man who can hitch the length and breadth of the galaxy, rough it, slum it, struggle against terrible odds, win through, and still knows where his towel is is clearly a man to be reckoned with.

Hence a phrase which has passed into hitch hiking slang, as in "Hey, you sass that hoopy Ford Prefect? There's a frood who really knows where his towel is." (Sass: know, be aware of, meet, have sex with; Hoopy: really together guy; frood: really amazingly together guy.)

10 July 2006

office hours

one of my students asked me what my hourly wage was last night and I laughed. Up at 7:00 am, to bed around 11:30 pm, there's no way they'd be paying me by the hour. What am I getting paid anyway?

So, my office hours/daily repose stretches from breakfast at 8:30 a.m. to the staff meeting at 11:00 am, Monday through Friday. Mug of coffee, notebook, and blogsurfing. And G-Mail Messaging. Forget this hiking stuff!

So. Viva Italia! Zidane must learn some self-control, it seems...

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05 July 2006

gee golly whillickers

So I really ought to have kept my mouth shut. Sera's compressor fell off at the drive in--it's a good thing I found it before it started doing laps around the fan belt and banging into other, more important parts of the engine. Can you believe my little baby actually had air conditioning? So, she's resting until I can get my grubby paws on a ratchet set...I knew I shouldn't have put off getting one...

And, in other bad news, I recieved my first bit of spam at my gmail address that I reserved for friends and family and never used for commercial or business purposes. Drat.

Well. UB staff training is rockin' along merrily, and this weekend we're going to the drive-in for Pirates of the Caribbean II with a whole plethora of STEP and UB and Houghton-ish people. Next week we get students!

01 July 2006

clean and new

I moved out of my home in Buffalo exactly a month ago. 2,187 miles and nine beds later, I'm temporarily bunked on Ethan's bed in Leonard Houghton 23. So I have internet for a moment. And for all the naysayers--that's 2,187 miles on my sweet old pickup without a single hiccup. Take your shiny Fords and your plasticky Escalades and go home.



I just got out of the woods--a week of living outside in the rain, coddling flatlander softies and cajoling the tremulous into pushing themselves. I am so deeply and profoundly happy to be working not just with my hands, but with my heart.
Happy, happy, happy. My students actually begged me to lullaby them to sleep at night. I talked people up rope ladders and down zip lines and through puzzles and mazes and initiatives and built fires. What more could you ask for?



So I went home twice for various celebrations of my brother's escaping high school, and discovered the joy of Lord of the Rings miniatures strategy gaming and promptly played two straight all-nighters before settling for gaming only during twilight hours. The Men of Minas Tirith will hold fast!



And I got a satisfyingly bloody week of work in Buffalo, replete with two gunshots, an incredibly messy car wreck (see ambulance below, after brisk swabbing with towels), and of course the obligatory drunk guys.

Well. It's Houghton for me for the summer, with the Upward Bound students. I'm off to a barbeque tonight, and staff training tomorrow. Cheers!